The Off-Site Bakery: Road Trip

First, the good news and then the better news. Our first appointment with the private fertility clinic was very positive. We like our new Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) and the clinic staff were all friendly and helpful. The office is brand-new and glossy, like something out of a magazine or a movie. When we arrived, a…

The Off-Site Bakery: New Start

We found out about a month ago that the people who make decisions about healthcare will not allow us to proceed with our gestational surrogacy plans. We simply cannot move ahead with Dr. Miracle at the public fertility clinic. Full stop. It’s not that we walked away without a fight. We rallied. I channelled as…

The Off-Site Bakery: Two Chairs

Hello, friends. Continued frustration at the recent, potentially permanent, stall in our gestational surrogacy process has crushed me this week. I have lost sleep, lost peace, and sometimes felt at risk of losing my mind. And so, needing to take back some semblance of power in this situation, I have done one of the things…

The Off-Site Bakery: Stalled

I called this morning to see if there was any news following yesterday’s meeting to decide the fate of our gestational surrogacy plans. We have been waiting since early July for this news and were not present for the meeting. I received the return call while I was teaching, so I could only speak to…

The Off-Site Bakery: Needles

I’ve been sharing lately about parachuting into unknown territory with The Electrician as we edge closer our dream of biological children. Our route through the barely-charted waters of gestational surrogacy has been choppy at best, and many days the waves make me queasy. Today I’m going to write about the freaking needles. But first, let’s…

The Off-Site Bakery: Waiting, Again

Thank you for the support and encouragement you sent our way while we waited to learn what the next steps are in our gestational surrogacy process. We are so very fortunate to be surrounded by love and positivity. Here’s what I know: we are not yet defeated, and we have not yet won. As of…

The Off-Site Bakery: Nerves

Tomorrow, we find out if Dr. Miracle has been successful in persuading the person who recently pulled the plug on our gestational surrogacy to reverse her decision. Our original meeting to discuss this matter wasn’t until October, since waitlists for fertility doctors, especially those as good as ours, are obscene. We got lucky when a…

The Off-Site Bakery: Disappointment

Our path to a family via gestational surrogacy has not been a smooth one. A few days ago, I got a call from our local clinic that announced a chasm on our route, just when we anticipated easy travel from here out. This is the nature of treatment for infertility. I’m writing out of order…

We Are Parachutists

A classic cliche compares undergoing fertility treatment to riding rollercoaster. I disagree, most sincerely. First, I would never willingly get on an intense rollercoaster–I’m kind of a wuss when it comes to amusement parks. Mostly, though, fertility treatment is nothing like a rollercoaster because at least the path of a rollercoaster can be anticipated and…

Mammal Mondays: Meet Wanda

After a long break from fostering dogs with Second Chance Animal Rescue Society (SCARS) here in Edmonton, The Electrician and I decided it was time to once again open our home to a pooch in need. When I say “we” decided, I suppose that means I said to my husband, “So, handsome fella, there is…

The Off-Site Bakery, Part Two: The Wizard of Os

I’m sorry about the gynaecological pun, but when you’ve been in more stirrups than John Wayne, you do what’s necessary get through the day. If you missed the first part of this series about my path to motherhood sans uterus, consider reading it here first. When you were a little kid, you believed something about…

The Off-Site Bakery: Part One

So, The Electrician and I are going to be parents, via gestational surrogacy. Hold on–nobody is pregnant right now. Certainly not me. I just say that we are “going to be” parents because that’s what we truly believe. We are well into the process of making our family real, so I figured it was time…