The Off-Site Bakery: Green Light

After months years of frustrations and setbacks, we finally made major progress this week. The Electrician, Auntie Stork, and I attended our mandatory counselling sessions. It was nerve-wracking, particularly driving there alone with a six thousand and four nervous thoughts in my head, then parking in a very busy area downtown, but it went very…

The Off-Site Bakery: Progress

It had to happen sometime, lovely humans. Wait. Slow down. No one is pregnant yet. Well, actually lots of people are pregnant, but at the current time our embryos are still in the freezer. Oh God. I just had a vision. The embryos are kind of like those pre-formed dinner rolls you can buy at…

The Off-Site Bakery: Still Waiting

Oh friends. It seems like all we do around here is wait. The Electrician and I have been through more setbacks than I can count, some tiny, some crushing, on our nearly three-year (so far) road to a baby. Most of the time we get close enough to almost imagine bringing home our child, and…

The Off-Site Bakery: Meeting Auntie Stork

I believe in miracles. Two year ago this past Christmas, The Electrician and I experienced the greatest miracle of our life together thus far: we found a gestational surrogate. An awesome gestational surrogate. Our doctor at the time made it painfully clear to us that finding anyone willing to be the oven to our bun…

The Off-Site Bakery: Road Trip

First, the good news and then the better news. Our first appointment with the private fertility clinic was very positive. We like our new Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) and the clinic staff were all friendly and helpful. The office is brand-new and glossy, like something out of a magazine or a movie. When we arrived, a…

The Off-Site Bakery: New Start

We found out about a month ago that the people who make decisions about healthcare will not allow us to proceed with our gestational surrogacy plans. We simply cannot move ahead with Dr. Miracle at the public fertility clinic. Full stop. It’s not that we walked away without a fight. We rallied. I channelled as…

The Off-Site Bakery: Two Chairs

Hello, friends. Continued frustration at the recent, potentially permanent, stall in our gestational surrogacy process has crushed me this week. I have lost sleep, lost peace, and sometimes felt at risk of losing my mind. And so, needing to take back some semblance of power in this situation, I have done one of the things…

The Off-Site Bakery: Stalled

I called this morning to see if there was any news following yesterday’s meeting to decide the fate of our gestational surrogacy plans. We have been waiting since early July for this news and were not present for the meeting. I received the return call while I was teaching, so I could only speak to…

The Off-Site Bakery: Needles

I’ve been sharing lately about parachuting into unknown territory with The Electrician as we edge closer our dream of biological children. Our route through the barely-charted waters of gestational surrogacy has been choppy at best, and many days the waves make me queasy. Today I’m going to write about the freaking needles. But first, let’s…

The Off-Site Bakery: Waiting, Again

Thank you for the support and encouragement you sent our way while we waited to learn what the next steps are in our gestational surrogacy process. We are so very fortunate to be surrounded by love and positivity. Here’s what I know: we are not yet defeated, and we have not yet won. As of…

The Off-Site Bakery: Nerves

Tomorrow, we find out if Dr. Miracle has been successful in persuading the person who recently pulled the plug on our gestational surrogacy to reverse her decision. Our original meeting to discuss this matter wasn’t until October, since waitlists for fertility doctors, especially those as good as ours, are obscene. We got lucky when a…

The Off-Site Bakery: Disappointment

Our path to a family via gestational surrogacy has not been a smooth one. A few days ago, I got a call from our local clinic that announced a chasm on our route, just when we anticipated easy travel from here out. This is the nature of treatment for infertility. I’m writing out of order…